No News is Good News

You can't control everything.  Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out.  Let go and let life happen.

I know it has been a while since I updated.  That is a good thing, I guess.  

Everything is going along just fine.....same 'ole, same 'ole!  

The only big thing that has happened with the adoption in the last week is the birth father has officially signed his rights away.  That really means nothing other than we don't have to worry about him IF she goes through with the adoption.  That is a step in the right direction as the birth father was the reason we ended the other adoption opportunity.  So, that makes us feel a little better.  Now, we just have to make sure mom wants to sign away her rights.  She can do that after 48 hours or after she is medically discharged. 

Aysoni still continues to have EXCELLENT communication.  I have spoken to the agency about her constant communication and hopefully they will talk to her about it.  My concern is that once this is all over, she will not only lose a baby, but a "best friend" as she calls me.  I appreciate and understand her wanting to talk to me a lot....I mean, she is giving us her baby...and I am sure she wants to feel like she is giving him to "friends" versus "strangers".  So, I will continue to constantly communicate with her, if that is what she wants.  I have never been in her position, but I can say that if I was in her position, I would want to make sure my baby was going to "friends".

Taylen has finished up wrestling for this season and had a great time.  He went 10-14...which was darn good considering this was his first year wrestling and most of his opponents have been wrestling since the age of 4. We are trying to talk him into trying out for baseball....hopefully he gets bored quick with not doing anything after school and tries out!  But, as with the wrestling kids, he has been doing baseball since he was 4...my guess he is burnt out!

Taylen and his buddy after the last wrestling meet

Tre' is still loving Disney.  We are hoping this baby will work out and I will get to spend a couple weeks with him in March/April.  And we are still planning a vacation to see him in May!

Tre' with his buddy, Donald Duck

And, if any one is wondering about my namesake fish....well, he died!

Anyone need a therapist?

If you looked up requirements for adoption (as if it were a job), STRENGTH would be required.  The strength to give and the strength to receive.  The strength to know that even though there is heartbreak....there is HOPE.

First of all, let me start out by saying Happy Birthday to my dad in heaven.  I hope you are having a wonderful birthday!

Secondly, this last 10 days has taught me that maybe I am in the wrong profession- I should be a therapist! At least that is what I have been doing more hours that my actual job!

All is still going according to plan...whatever the plan may be!  Our new birth mom, Aysoni, is so much different than Sarah.  Not sure if that is a good or bad thing.  With Sarah, we had to wonder if she would make her once a week call.  That was really the only time we talked to her.  With Aysoni, we don't have to worry!  I have talked/text with her more in the last 10 days than I talked to Sarah total in the 3 months we knew her.  She text me one day for 9 hours straight!!!  Once I was done texting her, then she called me!  Then Greg fixed me some "calming" hot tea and all was right with the world!  She just needs a friend, I have decided!  And I am very happy to be that friend!  And as Taylen says, "Mom, she just wants to be able to trust you!"  True, very true!  Our thoughts on the situation are this:  if this works out, we are obviously going to be over the moon, but if it doesn't, clearly Aysoni needed a friend to guide her and hopefully help her get on the right track.  I would like to think I helped in that!  She is very nice and very sweet.  I have even talked to her 5 year old son...such a polite young man!  He even just won a fish at a school fair and named one of them "Jami".  Not sure how I feel about that!:-)  

And for those who are wondering...Sarah had her baby boy on Feb 2.  When she told me it was a little bit of a punch in the stomach, but I was so happy to hear that she was doing well and the baby (all 8 lbs of him) was doing well, also!  I congratulated her and let her know we were here for her if she needed anything.  At the time she told me about the baby, he did not have a name yet and birth dad was not there for the delivery, but yet still doesn't want her to give him up.  I will never understand!

Tre' is still loving Disney and Taylen is just finishing up his wrestling season!  He just finished 4th at the tournament yesterday and his last meet is Tuesday!  Always busy at this house!

Go USA!